Thanks, Joseph Gordon-Levitt, for Nailing Men for Objectifying Women (Guest Blog)

Thanks, Joseph Gordon-Levitt, for Nailing Men for Objectifying Women (Guest Blog)

Why his “Don Jon” is a perfect 10

After flailing around Hollywood for close to a decade dating men who confused sex and love, I could not be more thrilled with Joseph Gordon-Levitt‘s “Don Jon.” Here a man nails men for objectifying women. A man!

“Don Jon” is Joseph Gordon-Levitt‘s cinematic kiss to all women who confuse sex and love. He illustrates why men understand this and so many women don't. He shows in our techno age the emotional handicapping porn does to men. He takes us there.

An entire audience is blown away with the objectification of women by Don Jon and his boys who are trying so hard to have a good time rating women while under the surface humor is incredible pathos. Loneliness. A flick of the laptop and click of a mouse opens a world of hidden sex, clandestine thrills, so much so that Don fills his trash can with soiled Kleenex night after night while his bed remains empty.

Then he meets Barbara (Scarlett Johansson), a tease of stratospheric proportions. Johansson shines in this part of a femme fatale from Jersey who, like her mother, is a control freak. Men are easy for her to dominate, until she meets Don.

After a month of dating, she concedes to having sex with him because he enrolls in a night school to improve himself — a bartender is not good enough for her. As she grooms him, he finds he cannot stop watching his porn and lies to her that he has quit his addiction.

Truth is, he prefers porn to sex with her. They go to church together, meet each other's parents and friends. Jon's mother is Angela (Glenn Headly) and his father, Jon Sr., is Tony Danza. Don's sister, Monica, is played with great aplomb by Brie Larson, whose weekly texting during the church service is worth the price of admission.

At night school Don meets Esther (Julianne Moore), whose personality is nurturing, uncontrolling and accepting. Moore shines from the glow of her rich inner life.

When Barbara reads Don's history in his laptop and sees 94 visits to porn sites within one week, she walks out on him.. Can Don ever love a woman, or will his life remain one of viewing women on his computer as a series of body parts? Do Esther and Don become a couple?

Well, you've gotta buy your ticket to this gem of a love story that shows you how to love while you find yourself recalling and longing for those moments when you, too, were in love.

You won't regret one minute of Joseph Gordon-Levitt‘s original screenplay, directorial debut and triumph.


  • Missedyoumissedyou

    Damn, Carole, I've missed your total lack of self awareness so much; and thank you – as a woman who has made a career out of latching on to men – for speaking out on the objectification of women.

    • carolemallory

      Dear Missedyounissedyou who ever you are,
      Why don't you have the courage to come out from behind your alias and reveal your identity? I doubt if you are a woman. If you used your real name we could have a real discussion, but your self awareness is so lacking that you are too cowardly to own up to your identity,

  • Sally Jane Sharp-Paulsen

    I would say that after all of Carole's experiences in Hollywood and the modeling world, and in the male-dominated field of writing, she knows quite a bit about the objectification of women…and is able to write about it from a very unique perspective.

  • SkipB

    There's a big difference between sex addiction and objectifying other people– something women do too, by the way. Equating objectification with addiction is flawed per se. And Mallory's astonishment that a “man” could possibly “nail” objectification is blatantly sexist. Had she been speaking about a women, the outcry would be enormous.

  • Not Don, but Jon

    I think you missed part of the point — in fact, his bed is very much not empty — he takes a woman home every night, but despite that, he still prefers porn.

  • Joom

    Don Jon was also objectified, his entire worth was summed up to his earning ability. He was basically a wallet and sperm to Scarlett Johannasens character. I don't think he liked that feeling and that was part of what attracted him to something more genuine.